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Fearlessness: Fear is your Friend

 

Fearlessness is being terrified and

Definition

Fearless: to be without fear; brave or bold

 

There is no doubt the fear is a very powerful emotion.  It has the power to propel us forward or stick us to the ground.  We could talk for hours about what fear is and what it does to us. I am not hear to wallow in the past though, I am here to help propel you forward.

You have been there right?  on a stage, in a room, with a person, on a plane.  You were afraid.  I definitely have been.  One time that pops into my head is my first triathlon.  I had registered, that was easy, a quick form online.  No one could see me.  Training was easy, you train alone most of the time.  It came to the day before when you had to go down to the location and pick up your info packet, your number, have your bike check.

I must have paced around the park for 30 minutes before I got up enough cougar to walk in the door.   I was doing it!  I was a bit crazy, since I had only starting swimming lessons 3 weeks before…. but I walked through the door, I picked up my stuff and I went home to prepare for the next day.

Was I afraid, hell yes!  Did I do it anyways, most definitely!

This is actually what they mean by “feel the fear and do it anyway”

I was listen to Tim Ferriss, Ted Talk, in the presentation he spoke about the question he asks himself, “what is the worst that could happen?”  In most cases our minds come up with these unbelievable scenarios.  When we take a step back and look at the situation logically, very rarely are you putting yourself in harms way. Most of the time we are talking a little embarrassment, not finishing what we planned, maybe having to change our goal, maybe having to call it quits, these are all thing that we can deal with.

With my triathlon, the worse case was I didn’t finish the race, so I was a little embarrassed for not finishing my goal.

Power options

We have the power to turn our fear into power.  We can be energized and ready to walk or run right through the next wall.

Start by becoming more aware of your own thoughts, know that you are the one control those thoughts and you can turn them off.  Next ask yourself the question, what is the worst thing that could happen?  Move on to asking yourself, what will a gain by moving forward anyway?

Take a few minutes to take a few deep breathes and set your mind to doing it.  Look your fear right in the eyes, feel your heart beating faster and move forward.

Will it work every time, nope.  Will you try it again, definitely!

You know I did start the triathlon that day, but I never did finish it. I wasn’t prepared enough. But that is okay, after a break and time to recover from an injury, I am back to training again.  Next time my goal is simple cross the finish line.

The deepest parts of you know that if freedom from fear was as easy as ‘creating a new reality’ for yourself, then you would already be the fearless person you know in your heart that you’re meant to be. ~Guy Finley

I think that it is really important to stay motivated on your journey to live more fearlessly.

Fearless people succeed because they think, speak and act differently than those who stay stuck and make excuses… that is a big statement! Tess Marshall speaks about what these differences are and how you can implement the actions into your life.

In Shambhala: The Sacred Path of the Warrior, Eastern scholar and mindfulness meditation master Chogyam Trungpa writes eloquently about fear and how to overcome it in his discussion of “fearlessness,” a place not absent of fear, but somewhere beyond it. “You might think that when you experience fearlessness, you will hear the opening to Beethoven’s Fifth Symphony or see a great explosion in the sky,” Trungpa writes, “but it doesn’t happen that way … discovering fearlessness comes from working with the softness of the human heart.”

Think of fearlessness as a learned behaviour, you can change how you view life.  Donna Rockwell, presents a beautiful article on how we can turn our behavior around.

There are a few simple techniques to overcome fear and lead a fearless life. If you are interesting in finding out more about what fear actually is, you can read more at Psychology Today.

 

What matters is this: Being fearless of failure arms you to break the rules. In doing so, you may change the culture and just possibly, for a moment, change life itself. ~ Malcolm Mclaren