Most people don’t discover what they want in life until it’s time to die – and that’s a shame. They spend the best years of their lives watching television, doing things they dislike, really living by default. Benjamin Franklin described humanity by saying, “Most people die at twenty and are buried at eighty.” Are you one of the living zombies?
What do you really want in life?
People struggle in answering such a question. When asked what they want or what their goals in life are, many are unsure. They dillydally in their decision, hardly giving any thought about what they want in life. To me, living life with no path or direction feels empty, how do you feel?
If you are undecided about what you want out of life, do not worry. There are many ways of discovering your purpose in life.
Listen to your Heart
To discover what you want in life, try looking deep into your heart. Oftentimes, people are ruled by logic. I mean REALLY dig right in there, to find your core. People live by what they think they should be or by what others like them to be. The discovery process is the perfect time to listen to your heart. What your heart desires comes from the whispers of your authentic self. Your authentic self is the real you. You might need to try a couple of methods for hearing those whispers, meditation, spending time in nature, journalling.
Listen to your heart to be able to listen to your authentic self. What your heart says always feels right, it might be scary but it is always feels right. What your heart desires is what you love to do and this represents YOUR passion. Anything done with passion is like play where the task is accomplished without hesitation. You pour out your very best and feel no pressure or resistance.
You will totally enjoy doing things that are your passion. Naturally, there may be barriers that may prevent you from reaching your goal, but your heart’s desire will find ways to overcome these barriers so that you may ultimately get what you want in life. Remember this: the universe supports people who are pursuing their passion and those who are pursuing their destiny.
However, this does not mean that you don’t use your head. People are born with both the mind and heart. Your duty is to live your best life and be in harmony with your mind and heart. The poet Rumi wisely said, “Live completely in the head and you cannot feel the breath and rhythm of life. Live completely in the heart and you may find yourself acting like a love-struck fool with poor judgment and discipline. It’s all a fine balance – the head and heart must forge a lifetime partnership if one wants to live a beautiful life.”
Listen to your instinct.
Part of human nature is the mysterious and spontaneous reaction of things. Often times, these are called instincts. Your authentic self communicates with you and guides you via instincts and intuition. Instincts allow you to act on opportunities instantly and intuition gives you those gentle nudges that urge you to act and follow a certain path. Listen to your attentively instincts and intuition they will not fail you.
Often times, we listen to what others say and allow them to run our lives. Parents often do this to their children. “We come from a family of doctors, so my son must also be a doctor.” How often do we hear this from parents who have good intentions for their children? Parents unconsciously block the true expression of their child’s real self and calling. Friends and critics will discourage you and point out the impossibility of your dream. But Before heeding their advice, evaluate the accomplishments of the critics. Did they achieve theirs dreams? Do they dream big at all?
Are they afraid for you or for them? Fear of loss, abandonment or rejection keeps many people stuck and they can not see or understand how other people can move forward. Remember, it is your destiny that is in line, not theirs. It doesn’t mean, though, that you will not listen to what other people say. Hear them out just the same. But the final decision should be yours.
There is only one thing to remember:
Every person, to live truly and greatly, must define how he wants to live and what his brightest and best life will look like. Listen to your instincts and intuition, follow your heart’s desire and live your passions. You will never go wrong.
photo credit: by Toni Blay