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Will you make it through family functions?

Let’s face it… we all have a crazy drunk uncle and a crazy cat-lady aunt.
Every little person under the age of 12 is high on chocolate and every little person over 12 is in their moody teenager phase.

it can be a little rattling…. okay maybe a lot, driving you to drink!

This the one time where you are obligated to get “along” with everyone.  Really you only see most of these people at this time of the year, which makes you feel terribly guilty, when you just want to go hide in a closet!

However, you can even be relaxed amid the frenetic hustle and bustle of the holidays.

Being peaceful is about the frame of mind you’re in, no matter what you’re doing.  You can choose to  calm and have peace no matter what’s going on around you.


Peace comes from the inside rather than from the circumstances of your life or from the people around you.

Avoid Letting “Busy” Mean “Stressful”

When people are busy, they often succumb to stress. You can be the exception. When you focus on the things that matter to you and put your whole heart into doing something, your concentration and interest in the task will keep you from focusing on things like stress and anxiety. You can banish anxiety and live stress-free.

I am really not sure why people automatically jump from busy to stressed.  You can be very busy and you can be very productive.

Busyness is okay, especially around the holidays, as long as you keep things in perspective. Stay busy with the things you enjoy, and avoid allowing yourself to be busy because of the demands of other people. Ask for help instead of taking on everything that comes your way. It’s okay to say no to someone when you say it with love and kindness.

Delegation is Your Friend

Family gatherings can become ultra stressful when you fail to delegate to other people. Avoid doing it all. Let some things go, or get other people to do them. Inform those involved that the things they want done require their willingness to help.   Honestly is takes very little time to say “potluck this year”  besides there is the fun factor of trying new things.

What matters is that you have love and joy in your home. It may be time to avoid people who expect the world without contributing any joy to your life. You have to live for you.   Deciding what events are the most important for you.  Deciding on who you invite over.  Simply saying no… really amazing thing to do, I don’t know why more people don’t think about it.

If you are going to be the center of a few events, then your sole job is to create an atmosphere of love and fun.  Working together, assigning duties and carrying them out, everything gets done and no one takes on too much. After all, you know what you can handle.

Try these delegation tips:

  1. Avoid being a martyr around the holidays. When you try to do it all, it not only increases your stress, but the stressful feelings spill over to others as well.
  2. Be honest and truthful regardless of the opinions of others. You’ll be much more able to have a joyful holiday season when you kindly and lovingly stand up for yourself.
  3. When you delegate, remember the little ones. There are plenty of helpful things that small children can do without damaging anything or being in the way.

Family gatherings can be full of love and laughter. With these tips in mind, you can banish stress and anxiety from the picture. To keep your family holiday gathering the best and most relaxed it can be, set the tone by remaining calm in the face of whatever comes your way. The holidays are only temporary, and soon you’ll be back to your normal routine.

The anxiety you face during the holidays often comes from that change in routine. That makes it very difficult to stay calm and happy. By recognizing that and preparing for it, you’ll be in a great position to stay relaxed and peaceful even when the holiday season keeps you busy.

Photo Credit By kevin dooley

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